"and please dont tell me it is just because of the trans."
Hey Cloud, that's cute. If you haven't already, read the FAQ, Tech Articles and search the NATO archives about the POS...errr, A4LD.
The 87 & 88 EEC-IV (ECU) does not allow the BCS to open up on automatic cars. Otherwise, the additional 5 PSI boost would eat the O.D. band almost immediately and the rest of the tranny shortly thereafter.
I questioned the gains of a 5 spd. just like you. But I prefer a stick shift and had the entire set up ready and waiting. When my A4LD dumped its guts, I did the swap. What a difference! Sorry I don't live close enough to take you for a ride, but trust me, it was worth the trouble.
You could beef up your A4LD with 4.0L guts, but I can probably do three or four T-5 swaps for what that will cost you and you will still have a torque converter consuming HP between the engine and rear wheels. So, if you prefer lousy gas mileage, poor performance and a relatively delicate drivetrain, all so you can talk on the phone or eat burger in traffic, keep the auto. Be prepared to pay some goober a lot of money to fix it for you when it goes out (and it will). Otherwise, you can do the swap for about a third (or less) of the $$$ of one A4LD rebuild.
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87 TC, T-5 swap, solid state IVR, fog light relay mod, PST / KYB-AGX, med. red, spoiler, 181K+ Mi's., daily driver, still eating Ricers!
87 TC, T-5 swap, billet quadrant / adj. cable, solid state IVR, fog light relay mod, PST suspension, KYB-AGX fronts, Gas-A-Just rears, K&N cone, billet alum BCV, med. red, 90's wing, polished snowflakes and centers, 195K+ Mi's., daily driver, feeding on ricers!